Love is patient. Love is kind.
Hello lovelies! I thought I would do a little blog post on the five love languages. Someone suggested writing about mine and I thought it was a great idea!
If you don’t know what the five love languages are, it’s basically a quiz that you can take, where you are shown what type of love you most resonate with; there are five categories: Acts of service, physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, and words of affirmation. I will link the quiz here for you to take it:
It’s interesting because, I think I first took this quiz about three years ago? At the time, I had results that were slightly different from when I retook this quiz again today. My highest score today was Words of Affirmation, followed by quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and then gifts. Now, the quiz gives you options to choose if you are in a relationship or single, and I took both and received the same results both times. I’m really not surprised by these results at all. If you look at your personality and what you appreciate most about relationships (significant others, friendships, family members, etc), it is pretty easy to see what your results could be. These match up pretty well, because I do think that I really appreciate when people tell me positive things and boost my confidence, and quality time is so so so important to me because that means someone is making time for you in their busy schedule.
Words of Affirmation
Personally, hearing someone tell me that they love me, or care about me, or that I matter, means the world. It is interesting that this was my number one this time, because quality time always used to be the highest score for me, but I think in recent years, hearing the actual words come out of peoples’ mouths about their appreciation for me, means the world. This is a big way that I also exude love to others. I like to write letters or texts or phone calls and tell people how much they mean to me and how I much I love them and why I appreciate them in my life so much. It seems like such a simple thing to do, but it really can make someone’s day and make them feel so good about them self.
This is a huge one for me. I swear as I get older, everyone gets busier, myself included. Time seems to pass so rapidly and there’s never enough time in the day to get everything done, but making time for people that are important is so huge. That’s why this one means so much to me, carving out a little time to go to brunch or go for a walk or anything really, can make someone feel so loved. That’s how it is for me. I appreciate time with the ones I love so so so much. Even if I’m at work and I’m with my friends, I’m still getting quality time with them and that makes me super happy. I’m definitely at my happiest when I’m with any group of people that I love, doing anything. It can be a game night, or getting food, or simply chatting for hours.
This one is really interesting to me because it definitely means something different when you’re in a relationship or in regards to other relationships in your life. Speaking to more of the friendship side of this one, sometimes a hug can do more than words can ever say. I know when I’ve gone through hard times or someone else is, and they are crying, sometimes there is nothing you can say to make them feel better, but just holding them and hugging them can make a world of difference.
Acts of Service
This past weekend, I got together with my cousins, and one of my cousins, who is married, actually had a great point about this specific thing. We were talking about relationships and how you can do things to help the other person and we talked about how you can ask someone, “how can I better serve you?” I think what I appreciate about this so much, is that everyone needs different things to help make life go smoothly or to feel loved or cared for, and by asking this question, you are able to pinpoint what you can do to help that person specifically. This is a big thing with friends, too. Sometimes someone is going through something tough and you can ask what you can do to make their life better and it may just be bringing them dinner, or taking care of a couple things for them, but these things could make a world of difference to them.
Ahhhh, who doesn’t love a good gift? So, I got a 0 score with this one, but I do think it’s because all of these other things are just more important. I’m not going to say I don’t love a good gift, because who doesn’t? Flowers or chocolate or whatever else are definitely nice, they just don’t seem as important as these other things do, for me personally!
All in all, I think this is a really cool test to take because it could help you out in your relationships or friendships. Knowing what you respond to best, is a big thing because that allows you to communicate what you need most to feel loved and cared for, this also lets you be more aware of what you can do to best serve the other people in your life as well! I know this is a short little post but I hope you enjoyed it, and I would love to hear what your love languages are!!